By Rachel Kearney
Maybe Tony Campolo planned on using that joke. Maybe it just slipped. Maybe he had used that joke before and had been told to share it again. But for whatever reason, Campolo said this during chapel on Sept. 7:
“You know you’re old when you wife asks you to go upstairs and have sex and you tell her you can’t do both.”
The joke rippled through our campus. While there was a general consensus that the joke was indeed funny, Olivetians everywhere questioned the appropriateness of the joke.
So, should sex be talked about in the Church?
Here is my answer: Unless there are those in the audience who have not had the birds and the bees talk, yes, yes and YES.
Not only did God command us to be fruitful and multiply, He dedicated a book in the Bible of all places to sex – for pleasure.
In Song of Solomon 7:8, a young man says to his bride, “I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit.” It’s no wonder Hebrew boys were not allowed to read it until after their bar mitzvah. If you’re not good with symbolism/poetry, I’ll give you a hint: The young man wasn’t talking about an actual palm tree and actual fruit.
Therefore, I think we can conclude that sex is good, in the context of that for which God created it – marriage. So why do we, the
Church, sweep the issue under the rug and act like it’s some heinous sin?
Instead of condemning sex all the time, what if the Church taught children about sex instead of public schools? What if we actually joked about sex in the context that God intended it to be? What if we were open about sexual issues?
One of my mentors, who now has children my age that are married, shared with me some advice she shared with her own children: When you get married, you will get to have sex thousands of times (she had actually calculated the approximate value).
So why not hold off on the one-night stand or proving your “love” to your boyfriend or girlfriend? Not only would you more than likely regret not waiting, but as some of my experienced married friends have said, sex takes practice and for some might even be painful at first.
I don’t know about you, but that advice hit home with me a lot more than some analogy like not getting too close to the “edge” (a.k.a. sex).
Perhaps by being more open about sex, we can not only prevent sexual immorality, but also save people from the heartbreak and confusion that occurs when they stray from God’s design.
Some good sex jokes could help too.